Category Archives: Inspiration

On being positive

Being positive is one thing I have been trying to learn more about.  It’s been a struggle for me but I think I’m finally learning how to be more positive.  By no means am I an expert.  But I have learned some things along the way and would like to share.

When negative thoughts appear you should ask yourself if the thought is reasonable.  Indeed I’ve heard that about 98% of those negative thoughts never occur.  Here is an apt quote that tells it like it is:

“Some of the worst things in my life never happened.” – Mark Twain

Chase those negative thoughts away and replace them with positive thoughts.  An exercise I’ve found useful is affirmations.  They are statements you say in your head that reinforce what you actually are and not what your negative thoughts or fears suggest that you are.   Here’s a sample of some of the affirmations I say:

  •          I am smart
  •          I am confident
  •          I can learn anything
  •          I can accomplish anything I put my mind to
  •          I am organized
  •          I am detail oriented
  •          I am efficient
  •          I can handle whatever comes.
  •          I can choose a positive frame of mind.

I had two days start out completely different recently.  On the first day I awakened and decided to be positive, all day.  I laid in bed a bit before getting up for the day and breathed deeply: “peace and tranquility” breathing in, “I can do anything I put my mind to” breathing out.  When I got to work I was all smiles and greeted everyone I came across.  I had a great day!!

The next day I started the same way with breathing deeply for several minutes before getting up.  The difference was I wasn’t able to maintain it once I got to work.  The report I had done the day before had some errors in it and I let that be the start of my not so positive day.   I am somewhat of a perfectionist and was shocked that I had some errors in that report!!  I set to work figuring out what happened and I learned even more about the report.  So, in the end it was a good experience for me.

Also, I couldn’t stop thinking “what is my assignment?” I read a great blog post, What Is Your Assignment?, which is what prompted my question.  As I lay in bed the night of the not-so-positive start to the day I kept pondering this assignment question.  And an idea came to me to streamline this report.  This is one thing I’m good at and I set about improving that report’s process.  So, even though I started out in a negative vein, I ended the day on a positive note with my idea to streamline the report.  You see? You can turn a potentially negative event into a positive experience.  It’s all in your attitude.

Now, I can’t say that I’m positive every day.  Absolutely not!  But what I’m finding is that I am having fewer negative days.  It is hard work to become more of an optimist when I’ve been basically a pessimist for most of my life.  But, I know it can be done and I am not going to give up!! That’s what makes me so good at my job.  I don’t give up.  When I get stuck on something, I exhaust all my resources until I find the answer.  So it stands to reason I am not going to give up on myself.

I have found that on my positive days I am on top of the world, like anything that happens won’t phase me one bit.  Do you know what happens when you smile at and greet people?  They are generally very receptive and smile and greet you back.  It’s amazing!  Try it.  You might like it.  :)

Random beautiful flower photo:


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when you feel like a failure

Don’t quit, fight one more round

When things go wrong
as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging
seems all uphill.
When the funds are low
and the debts are high.
You want to smile
but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing
you down a bit.
Rest, if you must
but never quit.
Life is queer
with its twists and turns
As every one of us
sometimes learns.
Many a failure turns about
when he might have won
if he had stuck it out.
Stick to your task
though the pace seems slow.
You may succeed
with one more blow.
Success is failure
turned inside out.
The silver tint of
the clouds of doubt.
You never can tell how
close you are.
It may be near when
it seems afar.
So stick to the fight
when you’re hardest hit.
It’s when things seem worst

Author unknown

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
― Winston Churchill

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
― Theodore Roosevelt

Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
― F. Scott Fitzgerald

If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.
― Henry David Thoreau

The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.
― Henry Ford


The mind is such an interesting thing don’t you think?  I read this great book last year “The Untethered Soul”, and when I have more time I hope to write more about it.  Indeed, I’d like to read it again. Basically, it talks about the chatter in your mind. We all do it but we all do it differently depending on our upbringing and our experiences throughout life.  I have been working on quieting the negative chatter and trying to live in the moment, but it’s not always easy.  A day starting off with a migraine, a co-worker’s very loud fan, a looming deadline can all cause your day to go to hell.  And so try, try again the next day.  I think the trick is to push those things out of your mind as they happen.  Not the easiest thing to do, especially if you’re me :)

This post is a bit vague on purpose as I can’t go into detail about why I put it together.  “Don’t quit, fight one more round” has been with me since my teens.  I’ve read it countless times and it’s a source of comfort and courage for me to keep going.  To keep reaching towards that goal that will have an end eventually.  God willing, it will be soon.  Until then, this survivor has to keep chugging along.  I hope to write more about this later.  For now, please enjoy one of my favorite poems and some quotes about success.  Because success is failure turned inside out after all.

Peace out………..


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