Self Compassion Helps You Get Through Tough Times – by Marie Miguel

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What is self-compassion?

Self-compassion is the act of extending kindness towards oneself during moments of suffering. When we fail in life, it can be excruciating to handle. But with self-compassion, you can manage those emotions in a way that makes you feel less negatively about yourself. Kristin Neff, a psychology professor at the University of Texas at Austin, created self-compassion scales. A long self-compassion scale has 26 items, while the short one has 12. Neff identified ways that people could be kind toward themselves and showed us that we could accept who we are. There are many ways to be compassionate toward yourself when you’re suffering. Here’s what self-compassion is and what isn’t.

What self-compassion is

  • Kindness toward oneself – it can be easy to fall into negative thinking patterns when bad things happen to us in our lives. But extending genuine kindness toward oneself is self-compassion.
  • Concern for…

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Urban art in Málaga, Spain

Greetings!! It’s time for one more post about our trip to Spain at the end of the summer last year. This time I’m not going to write too much. I just want to share photos of the urban art that we saw in the Lagunillas neighborhood of Málaga. It’s near the Plaza de Merced and the Museum of the house where Picasso was born. Fascinating art. Take a look!

Updated to include a link to the blog post where I learned of this great urban art. Do check it out. I think you’ll enjoy it.

First, my photos:

And John’s:

I hope you enjoyed these!! It was fun seeking them out. Oh yea, if you go to view these artworks, be advised that the neighborhood is a bit run down. Just so you’re not surprised. But I highly recommend checking them out.

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My 2019 in photos

I’ve done this every year except last year for some reason. Oh, right, I lost my desire to blog for a while so 2018 got missed.  2019 included a trip to the Marjorie McNeely Conservatory to see the orchids, a visit to the Weisman Art Museum, the Summit Avenue Walking Tour, our annual multiple visits to the Minnesota State Fair, another trip to Spain, the Walker Sculpture Garden, a quick weekend trip to California for my niece’s wedding, and of course I’ll include photos of flowers and autumn colors that I especially like from the year.

Here’s a conglomeration of my year in photos that I hope you’ll enjoy.

Happy New Year everyone!! May 2020 bring you everything you wish for.

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Gibralfaro, Málaga

Gibralfaro, the “elusive” castle that we hadn’t managed to get to on any of the last 3 trips to Málaga for various reasons. But we made it this time! And I’m so glad we did. If you missed any of my previous posts about our most recent trip to Spain in September 2019 you can check them out at the following links.  My first post is here.  A post about the food we ate is here. And one other post about the Jardín Botánico Histórico La Concepción in Málaga is here. I have a couple more posts lined up for the future so I hope you’ll come back for those.

Gibralfaro castle is connected to the Alcazaba (the fortress) below. You can get a combined ticket for both or a ticket for just one or the other. We chose the combined ticket as we love the Alcazaba and thought we could walk down from the castle right into the Alcazaba. Well, maybe you can but apparently there is another path that takes you to the bottom of the hill and outside the Alcazaba. That was the path we took.  Since it was a hot day and we toured the castle grounds first, we decided to skip the Alcazaba in favor of refreshment at El Pimpi. El Pimpi is a very touristy restaurant but we really enjoy it as we sit on their patio with a view of the Teatro Romano (Roman theatre) while watching the world go by.

Below is a paragraph taken from this site as I wanted to include a little of the history here. I’d rather not rewrite what others have already written so well.

The castle was built in 929AD by Abd-al-Rahman III, Caliph of Córdoba on a former Phoenician enclosure and lighthouse, from which its name was derived – gebel-faro (Arabic and Greek, meaning rock of the lighthouse). Yusef 1, Sultan of Granada, enlarged it at the beginning of the 14th century, also adding the double wall down to the Alcazaba.

Wikipedia has a little different take about where the name Gibralfaro comes from as well as information about the famous battle in 1487:

The name is said to be derived from Arabic, Jbel, rock or mount, and Greek the word for light, Jbel-Faro, meaning “Rock of Light”.[2] The castle is famous for its three-month siege in 1487 by the Catholic monarchs, King Ferdinand and Queen Isabella, which ended when hunger forced the Malagueños to surrender.

Do click the links for more fascinating history of the place! The first link contains information on what you can see today if you visit. It mentions three ways to get there but we took a city bus #35 and that worked great.

I found one other link that looks like a blog post and that was fairly informative as well.

And of course we took photos! Once again I’m combining my husband’s photos along with mine.  I hope you will enjoy the tour through our lenses.

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A wedding, an art exhibit, a fun weekend in southern California

It’s not often that I travel back to my old stomping grounds of southern California. In fact, the last time I was there was to meet my great niece 7 years ago.  We all went to Disneyland together and had a grand time. You can check out my posts about that trip here and here.

This time it was for my niece’s wedding in Dana Point.  I traveled with my daughter and we met other family members there. We hitched a ride with my cousin, aunt and uncle who were flying into John Wayne airport within 40 minutes of us. My sister and her husband flew into LAX and rented a car. They were going to pick us up but we changed those plans since it made more sense to go with my cousin, aunt and uncle. We all stayed at the Best Western Marina Shores in Dana Point, about 2 blocks from the wedding site. My other niece, her husband and my sister-in-law stayed at another hotel together further inland. It was so nice to be together with family for such a happy occasion. The bride was beautiful, the groom handsome and it was a perfect day for an outdoor wedding. It was held in a park on a hill overlooking  the Pacific Ocean. Truly a perfect setting.

My first gallery contains a few photos from the wedding.

Since we weren’t going home until Monday I contacted my oldest friend from junior and senior high school days to see if she’d be able to spend the day with us on Sunday. Again we hitched a ride, this time with my sister and brother-in-law, to the San Fernando Valley where I grew up. They were going to Grace Community Church and then meeting up with a friend for lunch so my friend and her daughter met us in the parking lot of the church and off we went to explore some sights in Los Angeles!

First off, we went to the Getty Center which sits atop the Santa Monica Mountains. The views are fabulous!  We enjoyed the Manet Exhibit from the last years of his life and then wandered around in the gardens admiring all the lovely plants and flowers. By then it was time for lunch. Miss M suggested Korean food and everyone agreed so we had Korean BBQ in Koreatown. Miss M has a friend whose mother was a flight attendant and this friend has traveled everywhere. So she texted her and got a good recommendation and we had a great lunch at Bulgogi Hut. Miss M also wanted to get coffee at the famous Philz Coffee and just down the street was another famous place: Amoeba Music. Huge store!! We even saw the Hollywood sign. By then it was time to head back to the valley to collect my friend’s husband for dinner. We drove down Sunset Boulevard so that Miss M could see some famous places like The Comedy Store and The Roxy as well as the mansions in Bel Air and Beverly Hills.  We ooed and ahhed all the way to the freeway.

That evening we met the rest of the family and other friends that hadn’t left town yet for dinner at The Smoke House in Burbank, just down the street from Warner Brothers Studios.  Another cousin who lives in the area met us there so it was great to catch up with him. I had invited my longtime friend and her family to dinner with us. I wanted to spend as much time as I could with them since we don’t see each other that often. My cousin and my friend’s husband have mutual friends (and musicians) in common so they had a good time chatting with each other.

The weekend went too fast and soon we were on our way back home.  But before I leave, please enjoy other photos from the weekend.

Some photos from our brief visit to the Getty Center:

Our flight didn’t depart until the afternoon so my  niece and her husband took us to Roger’s Gardens in Corona Del Mar. Um, wow!! This place was huge!! And we only scratched the surface. They already had Christmas items for sale, room after room after room of them!  There were many rooms of orchids as well and I was snapping photos of these gorgeous plants. Take a look:

To close, please enjoy a couple more photos of bougainvillea. I love this vine!

 

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Walker Sculpture Garden, Minneapolis – Autumn 2019

Back to a local treasure, the Walker Sculpture Garden. It’s been a long while since we’ve visited and I’ve been wanting to go since it reopened in June 2017 after a renovation. We went on a sunny, early October day a little over two years since its reopening. Hey, at least we finally got there!

I enjoyed our walk about but I’m not so sure I like the changes. It seems that it’s not laid out as well as it previously was and that’s hard to describe. Sculptures are mostly arranged in various squares with other sculptures surrounding the squares. So, you enter one side of the square to get a close up view of the sculpture in there.  When you exit you only get to see that side’s sculptures making it a long walk to see the other sculptures on the other two sides?  Yea, like I said, hard to describe.  There is one Alexander Calder mobile on the western edge that felt like it took a long time to walk to. There also used to be a green house and that is gone.  There are, however, nice gardens that probably looked better in spring and summer but I tried to capture some of those. There still was some beauty to behold gardenwise and several flowers still blooming.

The Walker Sculpture Garden opened in 1988 but the history actually goes back to 1906 when the land that would become the sculpture garden was donated to the Minneapolis park board by Thomas Lowry. Lowry was a real estate magnate and head of the Minneapolis Street Railway Co.  His home was where the Walker Art Center now stands, adjacent to the sculpture garden.  There is the Lowry tunnel as part of interstate 94 close by and now I know who that tunnel was named for. Interesting!  The gardens contain more than 40 works of art on 11 acres and is the largest urban sculpture garden in the country.  I learned most of this from the Minneapolis Parks website.  Check out more interesting stuff at this link.  At the Walker Art Center’s website is a page containing photos of all of the sculptures as well as the layout. I grabbed the names of the pieces and the artists’ names from this site.

I was also curious how the Walker Art Center got is name.  Instead of summarizing here I will direct you to this link for some interesting history of Thomas Barlow (T. B.) Walker, a Minneapolis lumber baron who loved art.

I hope you’ll enjoy this photo tour of our day in the sculpture garden. I didn’t capture all of the sculptures but I’m happy with my samples. And it was a perfect, sunny day with gorgeous blue skies.

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Jardín Botánico Histórico La Concepción, Málaga

As most of you already know hubby and I took another trip to Spain at the end of August and through the first week of September. I’ve created a couple of posts already so feel free to check out my intro post as well as my summary of the food we had.  This post is all about that glorious Jardín Botánico Histórico La Concepción in Málaga.

I learned of the Jardín Botánico through TripAdvisor and after reading about it, I knew I had to make the trip to see it. In our previous trips to Málaga we had not ventured outside of the historic center.  We wanted to see more than just the sites in the city center so I learned about bus passes and the Jardín was one of the places we ventured to.  The nice gal at the tourist office confirmed which bus we needed and where to pick it up.  We had about a mile hike from where the bus let us off but we didn’t mind although it was pretty hot that day. It was nice to walk through different neighborhoods of the city.

The Jardín Botánico was acquired by the city of Málaga in 1990 and were created in about 1855 by the Marquis of Casa Loring. In 1911 the gardens were purchased and extended by the Echevarría-Echevarrieta family and display a beautiful open-air collection of tropical and subtropical flora. The plant species come from Europe, America, Asia, Africa and Oceania. In 1943 they were officially declared a historical-artistic garden and are currently declared as being Bien de Interés Cultural, a place of cultural interest. In 1994 the city opened it to the public and it’s been enjoyed by many since then.

Although it was hot the day we were there, we found refuge in the many shaded areas as well as benches to rest upon. We were given a map at the entrance and we wandered around and saw most of the gardens. The one exception to the shaded areas was their huge display of cactus plants. We were both so enthralled by the many varieties of cacti we almost didn’t notice the sun beating down on us.  My first gallery consists of the cactus plants. This is a combination of both mine and hubby’s photos. Take a look. I think you’ll be impressed!

The next gallery is a combination of the other areas of the gardens that we explored. By the time we got to the Palm Collection we were too tired to walk down there but we both got a photo of the entrance.

On our way out we noticed a beautiful tiled picture of the gardens that I’m including here. If you’re visiting Málaga, I hope you’ll take the time to tour this beautiful place.  It’s not just for gardeners as hubby really enjoyed it and I’m the gardener in the family.  Here’s the link  to their website for more information.  Stay tuned for future posts of our trip to Spain.  Enjoy!!

 

 

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