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On dealing with difficult people

I have apparently not learned this just yet so I went looking on the internet for stuff on this topic.  I thought its own post with some things to refer to when I have to deal with difficult people might be useful.  It seems to come up time and time again and my reactions must change if I’m ever going to co-exist with these people.  So, once again, here are some quotes I found.  I can’t be the only person that doesn’t do this very well.  So if I help anyone out there that struggles with this, all the better.  Okay, ready then?  Here we go!!

This first one really says it all, don’t you think?

When dealing with difficult people, remember you can’t control their actions, only your own reactions to them.

Boy howdy.  Perhaps the next time I am confronted with what I perceive as an attack, I will remember this.  Along with this one:

When dealing with difficult people always remember, it is about them and their problems. Be compassionate.

It truly is about them!!  Remember this.  I have such a hard time remembering this one.  And wait, be compassionate? One, I never thought of this!  Two, um…..well……that’s a tough one!!  How does one be compassionate towards someone who is constantly on the attack?

Oh yea, this one sure hits home:

Be thankful for all the difficult people in your life, and learn from them. They have shown you exactly who you do not want to be.

Dealing with difficult people, you learn compassion and patience.

And there’s that darn patience thingie again.  You might recall my previous similar post with quotes:  Patience…..and waiting  I wonder if I will ever learn these lessons.

I found some interesting articles on the web as well so I’d like to share them here too.

Tips on Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with difficult people

10 tips for dealing with difficult people

Some good quotes and tips from these articles:

Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Try not to place blame on yourself or the other person for the negative interactions. It may just be a case of your two personalities fitting poorly.

Know when it’s time to distance yourself, and do so. If the other person can’t be around you without antagonizing you, minimizing contact may be key.

In dealing with difficult people, don’t try to change the other person; you will only get into a power struggle, cause defensiveness, invite criticism, or otherwise make things worse. It also makes you a more difficult person to deal with.

This post obviously has nothing to do with travel.  Rather, consider it another post on my travels through life and the lessons I continue to learn.  I’ll leave you to cogitate.  How do you deal with difficult people?  Feel free to share any thoughts in the comments.

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